A Week in the Life of a Synagogue Merger

Merger versus acquisition.

This is one of the big discussions at the synagogue, and has been for years leading up to what's going on now. My predecessor and I were always adamant that we'd not go down this road - that any other congregation that would want to join with us (given local history) would see it as an acquisition and we'd be swallowed up.

So it's very fair game when my congregants ask me why I keep asserting that this is a merger, not an acquisition. It's a very fair question.

In a merger, you don't lose your identity. Our name is part of not just the legal name of the new congregation, but the everyday business one.

In a merger, it's about coming together. Like a marriage, we might be moving into their 'house', but we're bringing our things with us, and what we'll use on a daily basis is a combination of both congregation's 'things'.

In a merger, it's about finding ways to work together, to use the best from each side. The new bylaws are based on theirs, but with copious input and language from ours, and has the recent revisions we made to be more inclusive.

In a merger, you talk about 'joining with', not about 'them and us'.

And I'm very blessed that our partners in this, the congregation we are joining with to form this new congregation, are all about finding the wins, having the discussions, and building together.